What is resentment? It is a multilayered emotion that can be described as a mixture of disappointment, disgust, anger, and fear. It is defined as a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury.

No matter how you put it, it is not good and resentment can be a sneaky enemy. It can show up before you even know it is there and can ruin or create a wedge in a relationship. And even worse, it opens the door for negative talk in your head.

There have been times I let my resentment take over in a relationship. When this happens, it is very difficult to look at a situation with love and kindness, and it is easy to live as a victim.

So how do you stop it or let it go?

Let’s start with trying to understand the reasons it may happen. Each of us desires to feel safety, love and belonging… this is consistent among all humans.