“Accept no excuses: Stop with the BS and be truthful with yourself, admit your flaws rather than defending them; look in the mirror and talk to yourself honestly.” -- Louise Hay

Wow! That is a statement. I have an app that sends me inspirational messages each day… although I am not sure I felt inspired by this one. I woke up to this one morning and it made me stop and think.

What was your reaction when you read it? Mine initially was to start defending (ha). It is very hard to look at yourself objectively, but so important to do when you are trying to get to a better spot in your life.

It is very easy to fall into the ‘victim’ mentality. When you are in a situation where you feel someone said or did something wrong to you, it is very hard to look at the situation without wanting to defend your actions. This is something I used to struggle with all the time, but I am getting better at it now.

Now, before I go any further, this is not talking about a physically or mentally abusive relationship. If you have suffered through an abusive relationship, then I hope you have found the help needed to process and heal, but most importantly, I hope you have found your strength to walk away and be free.

One of my examples of this is with my kids. I am a good mom, I love my kids dearly, and honestly, spoil them too much! My kids are stubborn, in