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Correction… Life is not easy. We work hard every day, things are going great, and then we get thrown a curve ball. It can be very challenging to find the positive in a situation.

Even though I try to stay focused on the good in this world, some days I find myself doing the total opposite. I can get to that bad, negative spot without even realizing it.

I have found that there are certain people or certain situations in my life that create challenging times for me. It is very difficult for me to stay positive during these encounters. And it is so frustrating to me, when I can’t stay positive.

They say the best way to fix a problem is to first acknowledge that problem. Well, I have a problem!

My problem is judgment. I used to think I did not judge. I try to see things for what they are and to find the positive and see others with compassion. But I have found when I looked closer, the people or the situations that trigger me, are triggering judgment. And then to top it off, I turn around and judge myself for judging. A vicious loop.

Judgement, I feel, is one of the hardest things to overcome. It can be done, but takes a lot of practice and awareness to release it and retrain your brain to let go of the habit of judging.

Mother Teresa said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” If you set hurt feelings aside, and you look at the other person through eyes of love, in most cases, their behavior is because of hurt in their lives.

There are times I do not want to see someone differently, my judgement is ‘safe’. If I open up, I might be vulnerable and may get hurt. So, we may use judgement as our security blanket.

I read a good book by Gabby Bernstein called “Judgement Detox”. It has great insight on facing your judgement and steps to help you understand it and release it.

Releasing judgement can be a freeing exercise. It removes some negativity in your world and offers peace instead. It’s a step in the healing process and one I would recommend.

God wants us to view others through the eyes of love. If you can view someone through the eyes of love, it makes it more difficult to judge them.

Whether you read Gabby’s book or another, or research on the web, find a way to work through your judgement habits and release them. This is a step closer to peace and love in your life. You deserve that!

Sending peace, love, and joy to you my friend. Sam

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