I found a quote a while back that hit home with me.
If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you. - Unknown author
How true is that? How many times have you said something to someone when they didn’t deserve it? You reacted based on how someone treated you in the past.
How easy is it to feel that everyone will treat you bad or “the same way” as your last relationship?
It is easier to believe the bad that someone tells you about yourself than the good. And if you surround yourself with those negative people, it is hard to heal yourself from what has hurt you.
There are many steps in the healing process. Some of your hurts may be easy to heal, while others may take a lot of work and time. Each of us process our feeling different and we need to go at our own pace and find what works for us.