I had lunch with a good friend of mine a few months ago. He said something to me that has stayed with me and I have thought about a lot.

During lunch, we spoke about work and family. My friend was worried about me as he could see I was struggling with life at the time. During our conversation we were talking about relationships and what makes a strong marriage. He and his wife have been married for many years and have a great bond, me on the other hand, divorced twice.

When he asked me to describe LOVE in one word, I felt totally unprepared for that question. This was obviously an ‘area of opportunity’ for me in my life.

The first words that popped in my head were affection, adoration, compassion, but these just felt like buzz words to me. His response was, “I feel LOVE is SURRENDER.”

Now, when I think of surrender, I think of fighting and giving in or giving up. Surrender was never a word I felt was associated with Love. But his statement has inspired me to think about what love truly is to me and in my life.