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CONTROL YOUR CRAZY


There is a country song that makes me giggle every time I hear the chorus. It is a song by Miranda Lambert called Mama’s Broken Heart. I grew up in a house of girls with one brother (poor boy). And there were many times that ‘crazy’ was an understatement for the emotional chaos in our home. The chorus of the song is:

Go and fix your make up girl it's, just a break up Run an' hide your crazy and start actin' like a lady 'cause I raised you better, gotta keep it together even when you fall apart, But this ain't my mama's broken heart

It’s telling her to hide her crazy and start acting like a lady. When I hear this I not only think of growing up but also raising my daughters as teenagers. As women, we have to deal with some crazy emotions at time, some that we can control and others we can’t seem to get a handle on.

The song talks about someone else telling her how she should act or respond to her situation. Even though I like the song, and I giggle at the lyrics, I do not believe in this at all. Each of us need to find our own way to deal with our crazy or chaos in our lives. When going through a separation or divorce, the emotions can be all over the board; how am I going to do this alone, how will I share my kids, what will be said when I’m not around, what will people think of me, how will I handle seeing my ex with another, how will my ex respond if I find another, how will my kids respond to someone new, and so on. There are so many things that ran through my head and still do.

One thing that has help me make sense of things is the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

This is a prayer I learned when I was young as my family went through a life changing event and it has always stuck with me. This has been one of the biggest tools that has helped me through many things in life. And if you analyse your situation with this thought process, it will help to put your mind at ease. Let’s talk through thi