I believe that our life experiences make us who we are. They mold us and guide us in how we deal with our lives and what life presents to us. It is important for us to learn from our past, but it is even more important to see our present as a new beginning.
How often do you carry something negative from your past with you as if it belongs to you? As if it is a part of you; as if you are meant to carry it and be reminded of it.
Maybe this is a negative feeling about someone or something they did to you or a loved one. Or how many times have you said ‘it has always been that way’ or ‘this stuff always happens to me’ or do you ever tell yourself it is just not meant for you? All of this is bull!
We are on this earth to learn, evolve, and to love and care for each other. In order to do this, we need to let go of the fear and all the negative energy so we can life happy. Easier said than done, I know. This is something that I struggle with often, but I promise you, if you work to change your mindset, it becomes easier and easier to let go.
Did you know your thoughts about a situation can affect the outcome? If you feel that good never happens to you, and this is something that you focus on, then you are creating a pattern for your mind to not see any of the good that happens to you. And the more you invite in the negative, the more negative things become.
I have a very spirited, strong, independent, beautiful daughter. She is who I call my wild child. We have had many ups and downs over the past few years. And for a while, fighting seemed to be all we did. All I could do was focus and talk to her about the negative things she did and it only got worse.
Have you ever had a time where you said something ugly to someone to try to shock them to see their mistake or to make a change? How crazy is that? How crazy is it to think that you could be negative and that it will turn out positive?
I am not saying to just put on the rose-colored glasses for anything negative and then it just disappears. There are things you have to deal with, things you have to talk about, but it’s how you deal with it that will be the difference. At church a few weeks ago, the pastor was talking about finding your happy. One of the things he referenced to do is to train your mind to not worry, but instead pray for them or that situation. Have your talk with them, but with a loving heart, not with anger or frustration, and then pray that the outcome will be positive and that that person will find their way.
It is scary to ‘let go.’ Since becoming a mom 22 years ago, I have learned that I have a lot of strength, as well as, I have learned how to take control and make things happen. Now I am coaching myself to LET GO of the control and trust my higher power to help the situation.
I still have my beautiful, very spirited, strong, independent, wild child daughter. And we still butt-heads now and then, but I try to focus on the good within her, and I pray daily that God gives her the wisdom to make the right choice. I pray that my heart stays open to see her with love and all the beauty she has within.
As we all know, you could not control somebody else. Each of us have to make our choices in our lives, and even though it is hard to watch somebody struggle, all we can do is share our love for them, pray, and do our best to see and remind them of the good and positive within them.
Each of us deserves love, peace, and happiness! But in order to receive it, we need to make the change in us to see it in others. We have to take the steps to change ourselves, to be honest with one another and to see each other with love, to find the good in others, as well as, ourselves.
Next time you find yourself in a situation when you are focusing on the negative, or using it to try to change someone’s behavior, STOP, take a break, find the love you have for that person, and restart. If you are like me, this takes some practice. You will have to stop and restart a few times, but in time it will get easier. And there are times that who you are speaking to will not feel the love, but pray that their heart is open to hear.
Figuring out how to deal with the crazy in our world, as well as, communicating openly, honestly and with love to others, it is a huge challenge. And like with anything that you want to succeed at in life, it takes practice each and every day. If we all do our part, we can start changing our world one step at a time.
Sending peace, love and joy to you my friend. Sam