I heard a story the other day. A friend of mine said they were starting a new business in January and it will be called RESOLUTIONS. He said it will be a gym for the first 3-4 weeks, then switch to a bar for the rest of the year (a joke). Yes, I thought it was funny, I'd go to that bar (ha). Typically, that is how resolutions go for me.
I feel there is a lot more to resolutions than what one thinks. There are many times I have set a goal and it went well for a while, then it slowly faded away and I would start to beat myself up for it. Some people may say I failed or I don’t have the willpower, but I think there is more to it. My thought process the first day of January is different in July, my life’s schedule the first day of January is different than May, my mindset the first day of January may be different in February. I don’t feel that it is I failed or that I do not have the willpower, what I do each day is a choice. What I view as important from day-to-day may be different from one day/week/month to the next.
In 2018, I am not going to make resolutions or set a goal that I will beat myself up over if I slip. Over this past year, my life has changed so much and I do not choose to make a decision or game plan that I’m not sure is going to fit into my life during 2018; I have no clue what will happen. Instead, I am going to choose daily. I am going to choose to be the best person I can be, the best me that I can be every day. I will choose each day the best way to take care of my health, I will choose each day the best way to save or spend money, I will choose each day to see my friend, family, co-workers and strangers with love and kindness not judgement, I will choose each day to have peace and joy, I will choose each day... and see where life leads me.
Now, I do need to add a disclaimer to this message. It sounds like everything is rainbows and roses, always so easy and never a down moment. That is not accurate, I do have struggles just like everyone, but I will make the choice to stop and choose again when I start to get off course. Find a way to reset when you feel yourself judging others or you feel angry about something or things just feel off or are not going the way you think they should. Listen to music that inspires you, talk to a friend that helps to calm you, find a quiet place to sit in silence and acknowledge your thoughts and forgive them, say thanks for your morning coffee (or diet coke), say thanks for your family, your home, your car, the person who said hello with a friendly smile. Find any way that works for you to reset. Some days it will be harder than others, but as you choose to do this daily, it will become more natural and easier.
So, to recap, NO RESOLUTIONS for 2018… Choose daily to be the best you you can be.