There have been many things I have done in my life I wish I could go back and do differently. Some things were minor conversation blunders, while others had life changing impact.

It seems to be easy to look at others and judge, to find their faults and assign blame for what has gone wrong. But, it is very important for each of us to look at the situation and own what we did to contribute to what went wrong… and forgive everyone involved including yourself.

It can be difficult to be honest with yourself, but I have learned, it is important for healing or letting go of the past. In most relationships, it takes two to make it work or not work. There are times the scales can tip towards one person or the other, but each person plays their role.

Forgiveness can be difficult to do, but if you forgive, it will alter your life and give you peace.

During a past relationship, I allowed myself to become someone I was not proud of. Now, I can make all the excuses I want to try to justify my actions, but bottom line, I was wrong, I made a choice that hurt my marriage. I allowed myself to become someone I did not like.