All of our emotions have different jobs for us as humans and play different roles in our lives. Did you know the job of FEAR is to PROTECT you?
When fear takes over and stops us from moving forward in life, it is our subconscious mind trying to protect us. It works great when we are headed towards harm, but it’s not great when it stops us from moving forward towards something good.
Because of our limiting beliefs, our subconscious mind may stop us by using fear when we are trying to heal or make positive change in our lives. Our mind knows how we handled a situation in our past. It doesn’t calculate whether the outcome was good or bad. Our mind looks at the situation to note if we survived it.
In turn, our mind records it as survival or safe, and writes a script saying that is how we should handle this type of situation in the future. This creates our belief systems… the good, the bad and the ugly. The problem is, if we handle it badly, we need to work through fear to rewrite that script so we do not handle it badly again.
For example, if you were in a relationship that ended with you yelling out of control or throwing something ... let's say at someone's head, you may never want to experience that again. That is a script you'd want to change.
Or it could be something you weren't even aware of. For example, if you grew up in a home with parents who were afraid to try something new, you may have picked up the fear of change from your family.
Trying something new or embracing change opens up a more beautiful and fulfilling life. Wouldn’t that change be worth the risk?
If you want stronger relationships in your life, but you’re afraid to get close to someone because you might get hurt? Fear is holding you back.
What if… You take that step or leap of faith and you find an incredible relationship? Wouldn’t that be a shame to miss because of fear of change?
If you’re unhappy with where your life is, try to do something different. Take small steps towards something you want. And when fear tries to hold you back, ask yourself these questions:
What’s the worst that can happen?
Will I survive?
What is the best that can happen?
How will it change my life?
How important is this to me?
Some changes may not work out and other changes will. You know you, and if you don’t trust yourself to make the changes you want in your life, find someone to help. A trusted friend or a coach. I had to seek help when I went through major change in my life. I hired my first coach.
You will never overcome fear if you allow yourself to stay stuck. Take the leap of faith and ask your fear to step aside. You have the power to do this. Don’t let fear of change stop you from a positive change in your life.